Let Them Grow! Let Them Be!

My son just turned two, and I feel emotionally bombarded. They call it the terrible twos, as toddlers this age struggle between their reliance on their parents and their desire for independence, which means he will eventually learn to be on his own, sooner or later. I was waiting for this all the while. But now! Call me selfish, but all I can think is, the more his world grows, the farther he goes, and my space in his heart will only grow smaller. And how I will miss all this love!

In the last two years, he spent most of that time with me. Of course, he loves his father too. But, there is no argument that I am his favorite person. Even Scorpy agrees to it. Dhruv has already started with independent play. But every once in awhile, he comes to me and puts his palm on my lips for a kiss. Or he would pull my hands to take him in my arms and give a peck on my cheek. He checks up on me, smiles when I am happy, and hugs me when I am sad. He goes crazy when I am not around, and the moment he finds me, his face lights up like he hasn’t seen me in years. I feel like the most important person in the world.

I haven’t experienced this kind of love from anyone before, and I don’t think I can love anyone that way. Yes, I might have adored my parents the same way when I was a baby. But sadly, I don’t remember it. During arguments, my mother says, “You don’t love me anymore like you used to.”. And I used to think, “What is she saying? I love her, and I cannot possibly love her more or less than I do.”. But now I know what she meant and I agree, I don’t love her like I used to.

Parenthood sure is confusing. One day, I wish he was grown enough to be on his own. And the next day, I want to freeze the time and hold on to my little baby. It’s hard to let go. But if I don’t, then that would be the worst thing I do to my son. I want him to live life in his terms, make mistakes, learn new things, travel, and explore the world. I want him to be happy with his choices. The least I can do for that is not to be selfish, provide the space he wants, and trust him with every step he takes. Let him be.

Let him grow and be on his own. Until then, I will soak up in all this love and the moments I get to spend with him.

57 thoughts on “Let Them Grow! Let Them Be!

  1. Let him be! That’s it. The best thing you can give a child is freedom and the best thing you can do to protect him, is supervision. We grow distant over the years, I know but that doesn’t mean what we have for our parents fades away. I think life is to blame.
    That’s a cool shirt btw. 😉

  2. Aww. chechi you made me cry!😥 My amma says the same.. she wants to freeze time. And I wanted to travel faster. But now I want to be a baby again!
    Dhruv will grow.. but he will never go away from your heart. Embrace him! Support him!! He will be there with you always.. thought not physically..
    Let that smile on his face last long! Muah!!!😘

  3. This is another best from your finger tips (the pen) and it is emotionally enriching.
    “He checks up on me, smiles when I am happy, and hugs me when I am sad.”…..This will always be the best gift and let you cherish it all throughout your life. ❤️

  4. Beautifully written ❤️I had similar feelings for my first child, for the second it was very predictable. “Two” just happened! 😅.
    I felt all this when she was 2 and now it’s a repeat at 10. Different feelings though 😊

    enjoyed reading this Aswathy. Yes we tend to become protective sometimes but we also learn to let go and let them be. As you said parenthood is “confusing”😊

    1. Indeed it is! 🙂
      Does it get better with the second one? I am still confused whether to go for one 😀I am ok with the sleepless nights and other commitments that come along. But this is emotionally draining 😅

      1. I only dreaded sleepless nights thinking of second one 😂.
        I feel, second one is a cake walk in almost all aspects. You are an experienced mommy then ☺️you are sort of prepared for everything.

  5. Parenting is so bittersweet..I get so emotional around birthday month and is in denial they are growing up. I read this somewhere and this is so true about kids “our children are not ours to keep, we are simply nurturers until they can fly on their own”!!

  6. Make the best of it while it lasts, alle?
    This is such an endearing post. After a while, the love will be there but they’ll become more independent and they might not be around so much.

  7. Can’t agree more,these days I also going through many emotions.you penned down it very beautifully achu..🧡🧡

  8. I can understand your worries dear…. All moms have the same feelings…. What to do…. We have to survive that phase too….

  9. Best is to stop worrying about the future maybe, and enjoy these cherishable moments of the present. Though easier said than done. It was a great read Aswathy! Those insights on this phase of life were so well described.

  10. Our duty is to nurture and support. Our salary is the bliss and happiness and love without expectations that emerge we enjoy👍🏻🙏🏻🙂

  11. Thank you for wonderful post!
    My daughter also turned two this May, and I have very hard but very good time in these days with terrible two.
    Let’s enjoy parenting♡

  12. Hey, I know I’m a bit late to read this post; but can I say that it’s been penned down wonderfully! Sooner or later, we must learn to let go little by little.

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